Do you know what your talent is? How can you identify and explore your potential? Matei Stănculescu, coach in the ATLAS community, spoke to us about how we can identify our talents so that what we do in life is to our liking and to bring us multiple satisfaction and accomplishment.
How can I tell what I’m good at? What should be my way in life?
These are the most common questions the students have asked me that I met in the “who you want to be” program. To respond, we must embark on a journey to the programming system of our psyche.
Are we born with specific skills, or do we form them?
In case of loss of a sensor, taking an example of the visual sensor, Neuroplasticity allows us to overcome the average of the other senses. In the above situation, a blind man, to better adapt to the environment, will share his hearing and feel of touch. Thus, it will be able to orient itself in space by accurately locating sound sources or by the way the sound waves spread through a room. He will be able to read a Braille book only with the help of the sense of touch, unimaginable things for the person who sees.
If we go on the same algorithm, our brain can capture any activity, with the simple condition: to train it as much as possible. However, we still see from the early years of life that there are things we do with ease and pleasure, and others that do not come out, consume us a lot of energy and do not give us any satisfaction.
Here comes the theory of Multiple intelligence (Howard Gardner). With the skills (talents) We are born. It is evident that in any field, there are people made for that activity, who have not put too much effort into excel and people who have worked hard and sacrificed enormously to achieve performance.
To use known examples of everyone, I will report to the sports field, but the theory applies in any area of activity, for any way of intelligence/talent/aptitude.
I worked for 5-6 hours. Ilie Nastase worked only one because he had a lot of talent. I was supposed to shoot hard to be not like him, but at least almost like him.
The objective I propose to achieve in work with students is to identify those innate skills. It is evident that Ilie Nastase was more talented in tennis than Ion Tiriac, but in turn, Tiriac had a business intelligence far above average. And that’s what happens to each of us. We all have an innate talent. Every man lies enormous potential. We need to identify and exploit it.
How can I identify my talent?
Did Ilie Nastase love tennis? Hagi was and is in love with football? But Nadia’s a gymnastics comedian? The answers are obvious.
So, the first condition to figure out whether or not a domain of activity is for you, derives from the above questions, namely, you must like it.
YouTube is full of pictures of Lionel Messi in childhood, images in which they upgrade their opponents. We also know that Gheorghe Hagi debuted at the Great National at a record age of 18. He was superior to those of the same age as him, and the examples can continue. Conclusion? You must drill in that field above average.
Okay, I like what I do, and I’m doing it better than those around me. Is that enough?
No, there’s something else needed, that something that in most situations we ignore, and that’s why we get to burn-out, stress, anxiety, panic attacks, or depression. Is this the area we’ve chosen compatible with our values?
Do you ever imagine Nadia Comaneci entering tired in the gym? Can you imagine Gheorghe Hagi going without a chef to a game of his team? You can’t. And that is because it is not only the sport that is congruent with their values but also the collective role they play in that team. In other said, you can have a Motorio-Chinestezic intelligence above average but, to excel in a sport, you have to make a much deeper choice.
Do I prefer to activate on my own, or I am more team player? What kind of people do I like to have around me? I love sports, but I’m afraid of physical contact? Do I want to engage in a domain or teach it more? Do I do better on a post or another? Am I quieter or more talkative? And so on.
It is, therefore, necessary that the people around us and the fundamental laws of the field of activity we have chosen to respect our values fully.
We come to the first three questions that we need to answer to have a first idea on the road that we should go into life.
In conclusion, to give you a first idea of the direction in which you or your child could excel in life, I invite you to divide a sheet of paper into three columns. In the first column, answer the question, “What values do I appreciate about people around me?“.On the second column to the question “What hobbies do I have?“And the third to the question, “What am I doing above average?”
Take your time, don’t rush, try to write as many things on each column. In the end, circle those ideas that have the correspondent on all three columns. For example, among the values that I appreciate in those around you are the sense of humor. I have as hobby theater or movies, and I am very good at telling my friends jokes.
From here, I can already conclude that I would fit a whole series of possible directions, such as: to do stand-up comedy, improvisation theater, a satire show on YouTube or TV, or even become a director.
I consider this the starting point to identify the domain/areas in which we could perform performance and which would transform our 30-40 years of work into a continuous joy. If you want to go through this road together, I’m here. ?
You can now schedule a session with Matei.